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Now, thinking about my journey so far, I\u2019m not sure anything could have prepared me for that transition. For the last five years, I was comfortable, \u2018Looked after\u2019 and in a safe place that I called \u2018home\u2019. When I turned 18, they started to prepare me for independent living, this involved being given a budget, encouraged to buy and prepare my own food, attending a money house course to enable me to budget effectively. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I also had to part ways with my advocator, my social worker and was introduced to my new Personal Advisor (PA). The relationship with my new PA was so different for me, it was like my security blanket was gone and now I had to grow up and stand on my own two feet. There was support but it wasn\u2019t as frequent and if I needed help, I would have to contact the PA. I stayed with my foster carer post-18 but there were other options I could have taken that meant I was in semi- independent living. I think that this option would have moved me a step closer to independent living, but the thought alone was scary for me.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With the help of my PA, I was allocated a flat, not far from my foster carer. At first, staying local wasn\u2019t an issue for me, but now, I see it as a lifeline. Living on my own and having familiar surroundings, like knowing the local area and having support close by are the most important things in my life.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Living independently, in my own flat,&nbsp;has meant I\u2019ve had to learn very quickly how to negotiate with several different agencies relating to my housing and getting needed repairs carried out. I have learnt how to decorate and budget so I\u2019m able to live on limited funds.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Being fully independent has made me more determined to achieve things in my life and has given me an optimistic outlook. This whole experience has really helped me discover new things about myself, for example I have faced many challenges and I\u2019ve discovered that I\u2019m a lot more resilient than I thought. I\u2019ve been forced to come out of my comfort zone and navigate some of lives experiences on my own and so far, I think I\u2019m doing well.&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Going from security of a home to full independence is never easy. At times I feel very lonely, sometimes I wonder will this loneliness ever leave? I don\u2019t know. That\u2019s probably the next blog!&nbsp;<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Mental health issues are something other care leavers I have spoken to go through when moving out to live independently. If you are suffering, get help, reach out and stay in touch. Don\u2019t withdraw from life. Socialising can improve your mood. Keeping in touch with friends and family means you have someone to talk to when you\u2019re feeling low. Be more active- take up some form of exercise. 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